You Finally See the Self-Sabotage Pattern… Now What?
There is a moment when awareness stops being enough. I know I have been there myself.
You recognize the pattern and at the same time, are still in your own way.
You know you procrastinate when something matters to you. You know you pull away when someone gets too close.
You know you overthink, overgive, overspend, overwork, or abandon yourself when life feels uncertain. You may even go for another coffee when you don't need it.
You may even say:
“I know exactly what I’m doing. So why do I keep doing it?”
Because recognizing a pattern is not the same as rewiring it. The only we pattern interupt is in the rewire. Period.
Self-sabotage is often an old protective strategy that once made sense to your nervous system. Somewhere along the way, your subconscious learned:
This is how I stay safe.
This is how I avoid rejection- especially in dating or when going for job interviews.
This is how I maintain control.This is how I avoid disappointment.
The problem is that an old survival strategy can eventually become a prison.
And ...honestly, it will lock you in for good if you are not conscious, willing to evilve and move forward when your uncomfortable or that part is uncomfortable.
Something I have tried and want to share with you....see if it resonates.
The next time you catch yourself repeating a familiar pattern, don't immediately try to stop it.
Pause.
Put your feet on the floor. and if your feet are on the floor, see roots going into the ground and just notice ....any feelings coming up.
Take three slow breaths and ask while you are standing there:
“What am I afraid will happen if I don't do what I normally do?”
Then ask:
“What does this version of me believe it needs to protect?”
Finally:
“What would choosing myself look like in this exact moment?”
That final question creates a doorway.
You don't have to change your life today.
You need to practice making one different choice while you're inside the old pattern.
That is where transformation begins.
Some deeper questions to ask next time...
What if your self-sabotage isn't proof that something is wrong with you?
What if this is totally normal and so many of us are experiencing this?
What if it's evidence that an old identity is desperately trying to remain relevant?
Whao- let's really stop here. Go back and reread that same question. That same question
And what happens when you stop fighting yourself and begin integrating the part of you that created the pattern?
That is where the real work begins.
That's where it began for me.
That's where my whole life flipped.
That's where I started to question everything.
If you recognize yourself in these patterns, this is exactly the kind of work we explore through Shadow Work, Soul Integration, and identity reclamation.
Book a Sacred Connect Call with me to explore what may be underneath the pattern you're ready to break. I will be waiting here when you're ready.
With Love,
Joann
Soul Alignment Coach, RTT Hypnotherapy, IET/Reiki Master Teacher/Multi-dimensional healing, Land Clearing/Energy Clearings
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