Taking a deep dive into the Universal Laws.
We are going to talk about how the Universal Laws actually can help us grow, pause and pivot into a new way of being in our relationships. When I first heard of the Law of Karma, the Law of Resonance in Relationships, and The Law of Mirroring I was fascinated! Why, you are probably asking. It is because it felt too close to home. It felt like I was experiencing everything that I was reading.
Are you ready to explore these and see how relate to your experiences?
The Law of Karma (Cause and Effect)
Meaning: Every action, thought, or emotion you put out into the world will eventually come back to you, whether positive or negative.
How does this pertain to “In” Relationships:
If you act with kindness, love, and honesty, you’ll attract people who mirror these qualities.
Unresolved past relationship patterns may show up again until you heal and choose differently.
Something that you may have experienced in a past relationship, may be currently happening in the one you are in now. The person may even have the exact qualities like the other just a different face/body.
Some of your family members may resemble or act like someone you know in your friend sector which will trigger you all the time. This energy may come up to show you something you need to be learning that you didn’t learn in another situation.
Your friends may have just the right dose of medicine for you to heal? What does that mean? Well, look at when you have given unconditional love for no reason and wanted to repay it. But, that person rejected it However, you later had an opportunity to provide it to someone who really needed it and deserved it.
Reflection and Spiritual Journal Tip:
Ask yourself: What energy am I contributing to this relationship? Being aware of your actions can break toxic cycles and create healthier connections.
The Law of Resonance
Meaning: The energy you radiate determines what you attract. Similar frequencies naturally come together. Ever heard the saying, “Like attracts like”?
In Relationships:
If you radiate love, self-respect, and trust, you’ll attract people who reflect those same qualities.
If you have old childhood wounding from your father that he was emotionally unavailable as a child, then you will attract emotionally unavailable men/women as an adult.
If you are feeling angry or hateful and go out into the world not emotionally regulated then you will witness this in the outside world: People angry, car crashes, people yelling, disgruntled store clerk, etc. They are reflecting to you what you feel within you.
Negative emotions like insecurity or resentment can draw in partners who trigger these feelings so that the feelings come up to be felt and healed.
Partner may reflect you qualities that you don’t like or maybe you see in your self. Sometimes to take it deeper, your partner may reflect a pattern that you had with your siblings growing up…the more you get curious about what triggers you, or flickers all the lights on your hat (that is not suppose to light up, then….you know)
Reflection and Spiritual Journal Tip:
Ask yourself: Am I aligned with the kind of relationship I desire? Practice gratitude and self-love to raise your vibration and attract soulful connections.
The Law of Mirror
Meaning: The people and situations in your life reflect aspects of yourself, both light and shadow. They are there to help you see yourself like as if you were looking in a mirror.
In Relationships:
If someone’s behavior bothers you, it may reflect something within yourself that needs healing. It may be something that has been suppressed for some time. And now only with the person’s behavior showing up and triggering you is the only way to show you. So next time this happens, ask yourself what are you seeing.
Positive traits you admire in others may reflect your untapped potential.
The law of mirror may also show up with colleagues at work. Look at the people whos’ personality you can not stand. Look at the fabulous ones. Where do you see you in them?
Reflection and Spiritual Journal Tip:
Ask yourself: What is this relationship teaching me about myself?
What don’t I like seeing about me?
What do I want to become?
What do I have to do to become that version of me?
Use relationships as opportunities for self-awareness and growth and move through what the ego tells you. Your heart will share the truth if you are open. Journal about it.
These three spiritual laws work together in relationships, guiding your emotional and energetic exchanges. Take a look at some exercises and affirmations based on these principles.
Here are some inner work exercises based on the Law of Karma, Law of Resonance, and Law of Mirror to help you deepen self-awareness and transform your relationships:
1. Law of Karma Exercise: Clearing Emotional Debts
Purpose: Break old cycles and create healthy relational patterns.
Exercise: "Release & Forgive Journal"
1. Write down past relationships where you feel unresolved emotions (hurt, betrayal, anger). Be honest with yourself and say everything to release an energy that is still dormant in the body.
2. For each one, reflect on:
How did I contribute to the situation, even unknowingly?
What life lesson can I take from this?
What was my intention?
What was I really feelings and was I being my most authentic self?
3. Write a forgiveness letter (you don’t have to send it):
Forgive the person, forgive yourself, and release the emotional charge.
When writing the letter- use “I feel… when you…. And that why I……” You get the point. Sometimes we need to write several letters to get the emotions out.
I always recommend using a #2 pencil. There is something about the lead and the fact that the pencil has an eraser to write a new story once you purge.
Love yourself through this.
Forgive yourself as you did the best you could at the time.Be honest with yourself and make better decisions next time.
Affirmation: “I release the past with compassion and create loving, respectful relationships.”
2. Law of Resonance Exercise: Raising Your Love Frequency
Purpose: Align with the relationship you desire by embodying love and respect.
Exercise: "Self-Love Frequency Ritual"
1. Stand in front of a mirror and place your hand over your heart.
2. Say: “I am love worthy of deep, soulful love through all relationships.”
3. List 3 qualities you desire in a partner (e.g., kindness, loyalty, affection).
4. Ask yourself:
Am I showing these qualities to myself and others?
What can I do to feel loved?
Is there anything that I do to not respect myself?
What do I love and honor about myself?
5. Take one small action each day that reflects those qualities toward yourself or someone close.
Affirmation: “I radiate love, joy, and respect, attracting relationships that mirror my highest self.”
3. Law of Mirror Exercise: Self-Reflection and Shadow Healing
Purpose: Identify and heal subconscious patterns. parental, spouse, friends…etc.
Exercise: "Power-up Trigger Reflection Worksheet" that will change your life!
1. When you feel triggered by your partner or someone close:
o Write down what happened (be specific).
o Identify what emotion it triggered in you (anger, jealousy, insecurity).
o Ask: Is this emotion linked to an experience or unmet need in my life? What is the unmet need? Is there a connection to the unmet need when I was a child? Ex.:emotionally unavailable father? Aggressive father?
o What new, healthier response can I choose in the future?
o Do I need to share this with the person? Or is writing a letter to the person better just to get my feelings out on the paper?
o Am I complete? If the answer is no- please go deeper. Explore what’s there.
Affirmation: “I embrace my reflections as tools for self-awareness and growth.”
Bonus: Weekly Relationship Check-In for yourself! It will support your growth with yourself and others……
Set aside 15-20 minutes weekly to reflect on your relationships using these prompts:
What went well in my relationships this week?
Where did I feel most triggered, and what lesson might be there?
How can I show up with more love and understanding moving forward?
Hustle and Grace in the Same Space,
Joann Malanga
Soul Integration Coach, Master Alchemist, Reiki, RTT hypnotherapy, and Shadow-work
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