Are you navigating the Spiritual shadow of "anger"?

Anger isn’t the problem most people think it is. It’s not something to “get rid of.” It’s information and emotion coming up.

But here’s the truth most people don’t want to face:

👉 Anger is often a protective emotion—it rises fast, feels powerful, and gives you a sense of control…because it’s covering something more vulnerable underneath. You get to feel powerful, like you are in control, and change things if you need to. I totally get this... but there is something deeper happening.

For many high-functioning, driven people (like me), anger becomes a coping mechanism because it:

• Pushes us into action

• Creates urgency and helps you get things done and yes it is helpful

• Masks powerlessness...because even if yu feel powerless, you feel like you are pushing into powerfulness. It is masked.

• Avoids deeper emotional pain

So yes—anger works… until it starts running your life and keeps running you into the spiritual wall of the soul spirial.

🔥 What Anger Is Usually Covering

Underneath anger, you’ll often find:

• Hurt (“That actually affected me deeply”)....maybe you spoke up at the time or maybe you did not

• Rejection (“I don’t feel seen or valued”) and maybe you spoke up to that person, but they could not hear you from thier own space

• Fear (“I don’t feel safe or in control”)....there is a deeper fear that is coming up and you are not sure why.

• Shame (“Something must be wrong with me”)

• Exhaustion (“I’ve been holding too much for too long”)....

Anger is the spiritual armor.

Anger is the shadow that overlays the fear.

These emotions are the truth, espeically when you start to peal the spiritual onion

 Why So Many People Use Anger to Function

Let’s be real…

A lot of people learned early on like I experienced:

• It wasn’t safe to be vulnerable

• It was not safe to show their feelings and express them

• They were criticized for any little thing they did... no matter what it was. So, they learned to critisize.

• Weakness was judged or ignored

• The only way to be heard was intensity

So anger became:

• A boundary

• A space between themselves and love

• A motivator

• A survival tool to push through in career, relationships, toleration, and health

But now…

👉 The same anger that once protected you is now:

• Blocking connection in relationships of going deeper into soul aligned energy

• Creating internal chaos and overwhelm which is causing you to shut down.

• Keeping you stuck in reaction instead of alignment

🧠 The Shift: From Reaction → Awareness

Before you “fix” anger, you need to see it in real time.

Start here:

1. Catch the moment BEFORE the explosion. Notice:

• Tight chest

• An energy of fustration of when you have to address something- call it resistance or whatever but, but we often know it is something else.

• Clenched jaw

• Heat rising in your body

• discomfort

That’s your cue. Not to suppress…But to pause.

Let's look at the Practical Ways to Process Anger

1. The 90-Second Rule (Nervous System Reset)

When anger hits:

• Stop

• Breathe slowly (in for 4, out for 6)

• Let the wave move through...allow the body to feel the intensity. Ask yourself, is this anger or something else?

Most emotional surges pass in about 60–90 seconds if you don’t fuel them with thoughts.

2. Name What’s Underneath

Ask yourself in the moment:

 “If anger wasn’t here… what would I actually be feeling?”

Let the first honest answer come up.

That’s your real work.

3. Move the Energy OUT of the Body

Anger is stored energy.

Don’t just think about it—release it:

• Go for a fast walk

• Hit a pillow

• Shake your body

• Do breathwork (fast inhales/exhales)

If you don’t move it, it stays trapped.

4. Write the Unfiltered Truth

No spiritual bypassing. No censoring.

Write:

• What pissed you off

• What hurt

• What you wish you could say

Then go deeper:👉 “This actually made me feel…”

That’s where clarity lives.

5. Identify the Pattern

Ask:

• “When else have I felt this exact feeling?”

• “Who does this remind me of?”

This is where anger connects to:

• Childhood wounds

• Relationship patterns

• Identity triggers

6. Set a Clean Boundary (Instead of Reacting)

Anger often signals a boundary violation.

Instead of exploding:

• Get clear on what you need

• Communicate it directly

Example:“I felt disrespected when that happened. I need more clarity moving forward.”

That’s power without chaos.

How to Truly Understand Yourself

Here’s the deeper work most people avoid:

Sit with this question:

 “What does my anger protect me from feeling?”

Then: “What would happen if I allowed myself to feel that instead?”

This is shadow work in real time.

 The Truth About Anger as a Driver

Yes—anger can fuel success.

But ask yourself:

• Is it sustainable?

• Is it aligned?

• Is it costing me peace, relationships, or health?

There’s a difference between:

• Driven from anger (force) 

• Driven from clarity (power) 

One burns you out.The other builds you.

A New Way Forward

Instead of saying:

“I need to get rid of my anger…”

Shift to: “I want to understand what my anger is trying to show me.”

Say..., "I hear you."

I honor you. What are you trying to tell me.....(all to yourself)

Because when you:

• Listen to it

• Process it

• Decode it

You don’t lose your edge…

You gain self-mastery of yourself.

So much love....

Joann